If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you....This I command you, to love one another. John 15:10-17, RSV.
Certain topics Jesus just couldn't seem to stay away from in His all-important final words to His disciples as they progress toward Gethsemane and the cross. Two of those words are "commandments" and "love." Jesus makes it absolutely clear that if we are abiding in Him we will obey His commandments. And He is equally adamant that anyone who abides in Him will be loving to others.
In reality those two results are really one. As we noted earlier, all of the commandments are based on the principle of love. One of the tragedies of the Pharisees is that they too often separated the two. And some church members do the same. They are obedient to all of God's commands, including the Ten Commandments, but they are all too often mean toward others both inside and outside of the church. But being connected to Jesus is more than outward obedience. It is a loving relationship with Him that spills over daily in love to those around us, even to our enemies and those who misuse us (Matt. 5:44).
Being connected to Jesus means living a life of self-sacrificing love, even to the extent, if necessary, of devoting our lives to the welfare of another. Jesus, of course, was originally speaking of the need of His warring disciples to get their act together by stopping their jostling for supremacy and letting love for one another fill their hearts and actions.
But his words are for me also. And I need them. My natural tendency is to love myself and use others toward that end. But Jesus calls for a reversal of that pattern. If I am truly abiding in Him, I will devote my life to being a blessing to others.
People have developed many descriptions of what it means to be a true Christian. But Jesus provides the best and most authoritative. We must have His love flowing out of our hearts that we might have true joy and be called His "friend" in the truest sense of the word.